People often seek psychotherapies to remove symptoms, to solve problems considered to be caused by the family, relationships, work, society, always thinking that one has problems and never that one is the problem or that the problems are constituents of his/her being-in-the-world as attitudes and behaviors.
Whenever a solution is sought, this can be done by dedicating oneself to the data, that is, the problematic structures, or by moving away from them in an attempt to clarify them.
One can only perceive the problem in its totality when paying attention and dedication to it; consequently, the resolution is reached. Seeking other contexts for problem solving hinders the solution and further creates illusions, distortions, which leads to perceiving solutions where they do not exist.
Problematizing is necessary for solving. To question the structure of the problem itself generates its solution, but usually the questions regard other structures, considering them solvers. In children’s education this distortion is frequent. It is believed that changing friendships, creating interests changes the unacceptable behavior of the child, without realizing that the behavioral motivations of the child result from frustrations, fears and non-acceptance of themselves, generating their choices and purposes. In society, one of the great errors of humanity was seeking solutions to individual problems in the collective sphere.
It is not the whole that determines the parts, it is the relation of the totality with its immanences and adhesions that configures them. When mankind thought of solving the problem of the need for food, property was created; the public and the private have transformed the part (‘food’) into a fundamental treasure (totality), convergence from which all tendentious divisions have been established: owners of food, food without owners, and those without food, for example.
When perceptions change, new configurations arise, and this infinite process enables determination, solution, and problematization. In everyday crises, in existential dilemmas, accepting to be the problem is the beginning of a change. The individual begins to take responsibility for his/her problems, being disturbed, realizing the unpleasantness of his/her apparently comfortable alienation. The more one insists to be attacked, targeted by problems, the more difficulties arise, since the anthropomorphism of the problem - to think that it exists regardless of oneself - is a division, a fragmenting displacement. From the initial division - me and the problem - one arrives to a multiplicity of them. The divided, fragmented, delimited individual turns life into a pursuit of goals: fixing the error, changing whatever causes any hindrance, etc.
Whenever one tries to solve problems outside of the situation that engendered them, impossible solutions are sought, and they may never be solved. Thus, the way to perceive and react to these situations is to say that life is like that, things are not always solved. This conformation is the distortion that leads to ignominies, humiliations, loss of availability, and eternal quest for saviors. Dependencies and opportunisms feed on these distorted patterns.